Choosing Your Bondage, Finding Your Peace
In Part One, I asked: Is freedom even absolute—or is it just a carefully disguised form of discipline?
In Part Two, I explored the idea that maybe absolute freedom isn’t about choices at all—it’s about peace.
But now, we have to go a level deeper.
Because even when we’ve redefined freedom, reframed our goals, and found peace, we’re still faced with this truth:
We’re always bound to something.
And that’s not a defeatist statement—it’s an honest one.
You’re Always Bound to Something
We don’t like to admit it, but every version of life comes with a cost.
Even your best life has fine print.
If you’re chasing success, you’re bound to discipline.
If you want health, you’re bound to restraint.
If you want peace, you’re bound to boundaries.
If you want chaos? Just follow your impulses with no filter. You’ll get there fast.
There’s no such thing as a life with no constraints.
You are always choosing your form of bondage, and in this choice lies your power and confidence.
And once I saw that clearly, everything started to make sense.
It’s not about escaping all limitations.
It’s about intentionally choosing the ones that lead you toward peace and purpose.
The Illusion of “Ultimate Freedom”
We idolize people who “answer to no one.” Entrepreneurs, creatives, influencers—people with flexible schedules and financial independence. But look closely. Most of them are tethered to something: algorithms, clients, trends, reputations, routines.
There’s always a master.
There’s always a rhythm to obey.
The difference is that some people choose their masters. And others let their masters choose them.
Freedom, therefore, is not about escaping all limitations. It’s about consciously aligning yourself with what builds you, not what breaks you.
It’s about saying: I will bind myself to what builds me—not what breaks me.
The Peace in Discipline
Discipline isn’t punishment. It’s a commitment to something greater.
It’s saying: I want that future version of me more than I want this temporary pleasure.
It’s saying: I’m not trying to do everything—I’m trying to do what matters.
That kind of self-imposed “bondage” leads to a strange and powerful sort of liberation.
Because once you’re clear on what you’ve said yes to, your no becomes sacred.
It’s not about limitation—it’s about elevation.
It’s not about saying “I can’t.”
It’s saying “I won’t, because I know who I am and where I’m going. I am embracing my freedom to choose.”
Final Thought:
So maybe absolute freedom isn’t about breaking the chains.
It’s about choosing which ones you wear.
Because the right kind of bondage—bound to peace, to purpose, to God, to clarity—won’t hold you back.
It will build you up.
In Part Four, we’ll go even deeper into that metaphor—how the chain isn’t a punishment, but a braided lifeline. One that doesn’t always let you go wide, but will always let you go up.